A blog about ethical non-monogamy from two married lawyers
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On Doing the Work
One of the things that became clear to me as I’ve journeyed from that shameful pew to now is that overcoming those entrenched lessons is not accidental. It takes deliberate, head-on work to unlearn decades of society telling us sex is bad, our bodies are shameful, and our natural desires are unnatural and unclean. So…
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On Intimacy
This post is responsive to a prompt from Twitter, which reads: I’d be curious as to your take on sexual/emotional intimacy with other people & how that affects your partnership in ENM. Navigating what kind of intimacy is acceptable between you and your partner when it comes to other people is complex. Your thoughts would…
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On Compersion
I cannot tell you how very much I hate the word “compersion.” Not the idea, just the word. The idea of compersion is the joy you feel for someone else’s joy, particularly in the context of ENM. I remember the first time I felt compersion in an identifiable l way. My ex-husband was being seriously…